Can I have 5 minutes of your Mind?

Ep. 2 “The Golden Rule (w/ a twist)”
By Yenifer DeLara
A simple mistake we all do, and keep doing, often out of habit, is to treat ourselves poorly. It can be that this behavior was learned unconsciously or obvious events have shaped this current way of thinking. This treatment towards yourself can be amended! Putting ourselves down (or letting others do it to us) at every opportunity possible is detrimental and has a compounding effect. I think the greatest thing you can do for yourself is (learn how to) give compassion and kindness to yourself.

You have to be your own parent, your own child, your own best friend, your own therapist, your own teacher. What that means is telling yourself all the encouraging words you would tell to a child of your own each time they fall from their bike. That is all of what our existence is, learning how to ride a bike precisely by not knowing how to ride a bike. You cannot ever be mad at yourself for not knowing how things will turn out. You cannot ever be mad at yourself for trying. You don’t mock your child for losing balance on the bike; you don’t tell your child to stop, nor stop trying, nor stop trying to learn. You have to be your own training wheels for your whole ride.

The level of kindness you have towards yourself should be enough to where you don’t seek it from another person, nor place, nor event, nor object. The golden rule with a twist of my own states: You should treat yourself as nice as you want others to treat you. You can’t pour a drink into anybody else’s cup if and when you literally have not a single drop in your own cup.